Guess what, they weren’t big when they started either. This is a common phrase heard from new guys at the gym and females. It can be very daunting going into the weights area with all the big guys grunting etc. It is natural to feel inadequate and that you don’t belong. You may feel like people are watching you also. They may be? But what does it really matter? The fact of the matter is that the gym is a place for self improvement. It does not matter if you can only lift 5kgs and the guy next to you is doing 50kg! He started off lifting 5kg too.
It is very important to realise that people are going to the gym for their own self improvement. Yes, there are plenty of competitive people but unless you are in a direct competition with them then it is totally irrelevant. All you need to do is turn up and strive to achieve your own personal bests. The feeling of breaking a PB is incredibly addictive. It is what keeps me going all the time. It is important to note that as a beginner, it is easier to set new PB’s regularly but as you progress there will be days where things just don’t click. Your form may be a little off, you may have had inadequate nutrition or sleep, your mind may not be focussed on the task at hand etc. Everyone has these days. You just have to remember that doing something is better than doing nothing!
You need to determine what it is that you are self conscious about in the gym. For most people it is a feeling of inadequacy. Realise that everyone is there for exactly the same reason and everyone has the right to be there. Realise that even the experience people there are also self conscious. Realise that people are generally too focussed on their own training to worry about what other people are doing. Realise that training is all about self improvement.